Updated: Jul 12
There comes a point in life, or I am guessing it does, where you question yourself about the person you want to become, the things you want to accomplish and the people you want to end up with or pick up along the way.
To begin with, this probably changes as life goes by more than once. Nevertheless it's never wrong if you think about it and plan accordingly to each individual's life progress and its near future.
This point in life has come to me today, seventh day quarantined.
The first few days of being locked inside I cried, I got desperate and tried thinking of things I had to do to be productive and take advantage of all the free time I had been ´gifted´ by this virus. In the blankness of time and the tornado of thoughts that come to your head when you are alone for more than 24 hours, I noticed two things. One, I expect myself to be busy all the time to feel the simple pleasure of productiveness (even though I am a pro procrastinator) and number two, I feel so tiny in this big a** world and strongly believe that there are so many things to do out there, with patience and hard work.
In the cave of my own from where I write to you, I figured that the possibility of settling in one city, in one place, with the same people (except loved ones) and the same old life routine at a young age, is insanity! It is crazy how life has given us this earth and these endless oceans that meet with more land filled with new people and new adventures. There is so much more. I don't know how to express that in a non cliche way. There is.
So in the midst of trying to settle my craziness and my perpetual over-thinking, I decided it has arrived. The point in life where I question what I want to do, who I want to be, where, with who? The five w’s: who, when, where, what, why.
Here my friends, I will not start listing what I want for myself. Instead I will list questions that are good to reflect and write (on paper) about, if for you, this point in life has come. Or even better, if it has not and you have foreseen it. So here we go.
List of questions to reflect and write about (on paper) if the point in life where you question yourself about the person you want to become, the things you want to accomplish and the people you want to end up with, has arrived:
(Do not fill out yet! Read the whole article, then go for it.)
Who am I?
What am I made of?
What are my core values?
Values I will never give up on:
Who do I want to become?
Why do I want to become this person? (reference question #5)
How can I become this person? (reference question #6)
What am I doing right now to become this person? (reference question #5)
Where can I become this person? (basically anywhere but ask yourself)
Short term goals:
How I plan on accomplishing my short term goals:
Long term goals (at the moment anyway):
What I need to do to pave my way and achieve my long term goals:
Do I want to settle?
For what I will settle:
When would I like to settle? (hard to plan but think about it)
What am I looking for in a partner?
The ideal partner (go crazy on this one):
Do I want kids? (important even though it might be laughable now)
Do I want to move someplace else? Now? Or already settled?
What do I need to do before I settle?
What do I want to do before I settle? (big difference. Want vs. need)
When do I see all this happening?
Ok. These are all the questions my turbulent mind thought of right now. They really have simple answers if you listen to your mind. Don't answer by planning the “perfect” life or the life you are expected to have. Answering these questions honestly is the point of it all. When you are done answering, read them over and over and over. This way you get a chance to think and edit smartly and realistically. You will get to know yourself better and the life you want for yourself. It is important to feel full internally before you can add an extra bucket to have filled up externally.
Also you might take a while to answer them all. This is no assignment and will have no grading. You don't even have to do it. Maybe ask yourself the questions and write about them the next day, or the next few days. No wrong way to do this. As a matter of fact I will also be writing these out myself, I haven't deeply thought about these before.
With the hopes of ending up with answers after thinking about all these things, I have to say we might end up a bit more confused. On a positive note I can assure you and myself that within this confusion that might -not will- arise, we will be given answers.
Your life is your project. Ace it.